As a wedding present, I received the book "Don'ts for Husbands, Don'ts for Wives" written by Blanche Ebbutt in 1913. While some of the bits of wisdoms it has are outdated, other's are still quite true. I enjoyed this passage I was reading the other day, in the husband's section:
"Don't be unsympathetic if you wife's worries seem to you to be trivial. You haven't tried to run a house with tiresome servants and ailing children, and you don't realise what a strain it is at times, and how molehills become mountains, because there are so many of them piled on to each other. You can soon sweep all trouble away with a little kindly sympathy, or you can make it worse by refusing to see that there is any trouble" (pg. 44)
Now servants nor children I have never had (and servants most likely never!) , but in the establishment of our new home, I've noticed how molehills become mountains, simply because they keep piling on top of each other, and I didn't take the trouble to stop them out in the first place! I'm blessed by a husband who is liberal with kindly sympathy and helps me with molehill stomping. That said, I'm learning a bit more proactiveness on my side can do a great deal of good in the long run, i.e. do the dishes now, not tomorrow; tidy up the budget now, and not before you wonder how much is in the bank; bring the trash in from the car now, not later - and all that good stuff.
Surprisingly - it's not too hard! A bit more inconvenient, but over all, makes for a very pleasant home. Speaking of which - time to go to bed!
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