Our first marriage "secret of success": The phrase "You're Right!"

So one of the things I've noticed in our nearly 4 months of marriage, is how many discussions of different view points on minor things do not evolve into arguments simply with the phrase "you're right."

Neither Jon nor I are very opinionated people, however when it comes to little insignificant things I have discovered  human nature just wants to hold on to its point of view, for not particular reason other than it is "mine" and I want to "be right"! The simple phrase "you're right" comes in handy in marriage when discussing how-to's, such as the "best" way to clean a pot (when both methods work), different directions that function equally well for different reasons, how to schedule things (like when to leave for an event) and mostly just different ways for managing life that aren't significant in themselves, however could grow into heated discussions of self-importance if not tempered with some good-natured submission.

I have found when a rising "mine" nag comes up, and I want to convince Jon that I  am "right" (for whatever reason), simply stopping to say "yes, honey, you're right" stops the nag into turning into something awful and hurtful. I'm not lying, because he is indeed right, and then I simply give up my right to defend my own "being right" in an insigifnicant discussion. It's very freeing I find, and I'm pretty certain he'd say the same. [I asked him, he would].

It's been a wonderful little tool that I hope to keep using as the years go on - and seeing how often Jon is truely and legitimately right on so many different things, I'm certain I'll have many opportunities! (this post itself was inspired by using the phrase about 4 different times tonight alone!)